My name is Kate. I am a LAHM. But how did I get here?
In May 2011, I lost my job of 13 years. I spent the next several months looking for work, which is not easy to do in a down economy. What I learned is that after 13 years in one job, I was perfectly qualified for just that one job. I did have a few promising interviews, but they did not lead to job offers. At the same time that I lost my job, my wife started a new position at a company closer to home. Between the two of us, we are now earning about a third of what we were earning a year before.
In September 2011, my wife and I were presented with an incredible opportunity. For several years, we had tried to become parents. We tried going it alone for a year, then we were foster parents for three years, and finally we moved to private adoption for two years. Along the way, we had many disappointments, and we had considered throwing in the towel once our home study expired. In September, however, we were matched with a birthmother out of state. Our son, A, was born in October 2011. I decided that I would take some time off from job searching to spend time with our boy.
My goal in life was never to be a stay at home mom. It smacks against everything my feminist parents ever taught me when I was growing up. I love my boy, but I would love to be working, contributing to our household finances. In order for me to find a position that I would enjoy and would utilize my skill set, I need to get a degree. I considered taking classes at night at one of the local universities, but doing so would mean no time with my wife. Fortunately, I found a private university in my state that offers online degrees. I am now a junior in college, majoring in Management Information Systems.
Yes, I study during naptime.